Sa palagay ko, kaya tayo naguguluhan sa mga tanong na ganyan (i.e. figuring out women/men) dahil may inaasahan tayo mula sa kanila (expectations, ba?). You like someone, and you cannot help but picutre an ideal situation for the two of you. That's probably why we get disappointed or confused when they 'act weird' because of these hopes and fantasies we create in our minds.
To put it in an objective point of view, take a look at our friends of the opposite sex. Do you find yourself asking those questions whenever you are with your girl-friends? Hindi, 'di ba? That's because you don't expect or hope for anything more than that genuine friendship that you have.
I guess that is the beauty of falling in love with your best friend, because you don't really have to go through the guessing game. You already know what makes her laugh, what makes her cry, and how she wants to be loved.
Am I making sense to you? I hope I am. hehe But don't think that what you're doing is wrong, or perverted or whatever. Normal lang 'yan. It's a phase that we all go through. :)
3 comments:
hehe, tnx for the post ate chinky:) haha, naisip ko rin yun ._.
hiyaaaa ate chinky! i read ur post jst now so kinda late yung comment, anyhoo, rudy, pao & i wer talkng bout d same stuff knina, i was teling sum tings wen pao sed na d rison is dat 'you expect!' EXPECTATIONS daw, pero i sed no, den rudy analyzed it 4 us, den der, we got 2 d bottom of things, it's not bcoz of ur expectations from dat ceratin person frm d opposite sex, it jst so happens that ur 'awareness level' is extremely high wen u happen 2 lyk a person, most probably bcoz ur entire focus is on him/her! yun lng, parang wlang point, sharing lng, haha.
why do valentine's make people think sooooo hard???? haha.
*hugs and kisses*
I think I will agree with the removal of the guessing game part, but it doesn't make it simpler.
Complications are to take over the guessing game. Because the two of them are best friends, they are now (or at least this person) is somewhere in between. How will the person act? Is the person going to fast? Is the person going too slow? They're friends right? It won't be simple again until both actually enter the relationship.
There is a lot at stake here and, even if they are best friends, they would know what makes each other tick, but that also doesn't mean that they know each other entirely. It's not a bad thing! When you thought being best friends was knowing a great deal about another person... err not really especially when in a relationship. Things will change, for the better, or for the worst (since they are friends to begin with).
You're right with saying never to expect anything more but the genuine friendship they have, which also implies that the two of them must be clear about themselves. ;")
Ry.
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